angela nickys mum
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4-Apr-2008
1:51 PM
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What sort of illness or depression have you had since your angel left.
with me i have had chest infection's in the winter that would not budge.
Oh and the feeling of always being tired.
in the very begining panick attacks .
what about you all.
perhaps we can see if grief makes us ill?
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Linda Arrigo
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5-Apr-2008
4:24 AM
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I have a bad back and the pain gets worse with the stress. I still have panic attacks not as bad as in the beginning.I'm always tired and have lost interest in things and I can't concentrate.I don't care about anything anymore.I'm not as strong as I used to be mentally and physicaly.My body aches all the time.I don't take care of myself.I can't remember the last time I put makeup on or even nice clothes.
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Harley's Mom
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5-Apr-2008
4:55 PM
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Yes, grief does cause illness.Both mentally and physically.
After my son Harley Walls passed away, my mind was just going crazy, could not think and could not concentrate.
I developed colitis due to nerves and stress and then my body just would not stop going. I stayed up 3 days and 3 nights and went to work and still was not tired.
Went to the Dr's for what I thought was the flu(I had achy muscles and my heart was beating really fast and my hair was falling out in bunches)did blood work on me and found out I had hyperthyroidism brought on by Grave's disease.
It is a genetic disorder but it came out in me when Harley passed away. My health has been going downhill ever since then, so yes all the stress and heartache of losing a child can kill you.
God Bless Us all that have lost a child for "The worse loss in life is the loss of a child."
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JEANNIE25
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6-Apr-2008
10:46 AM
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good topic lets see my thyroid went to underactive weight 98 pounds, and they destroyed it that made me sick i was in emergencie rooms all the time for chest pains. i live in chronic pain. iam sick all the time, and to be honest no one can stand me. lol..so tired no energy and on so many pain pills. it has taken its toll thats for sure.
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Denise Kneale
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6-Apr-2008
10:52 AM
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Yes I suffered all the usual stuff in the beginning...so tired, no motivation, not going out on my own (although I had that problem for many yrs on and off before).
So in my opinion, it's not the grief that can make you ill, it's the stress with causes dis-ease. Grief = Stress = Dis-ease.
Stress related diseases is one the the #1 killers, so I handle the stress as I normally would, starting off firstly diagphamatic breathing, with will bring your blood pressure down if done every day, (scientically proved), then I do meditation which will bring you down another level and so and and so on.
When I realised that: You are what you think, I changed my thinking, therefore changing my attitude...Hope this helps
If anyone would like to know more about stress relief,please feel free to email me: magentacharlotte@btinternet.com I would be more than happy to help.
Love and Blessings Denise mum to James Kneale xxx
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Dessa
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7-Apr-2008
4:58 AM
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This is a great topic I have had back trouble a lot of my life but after I lost Joseph it started putting me down in bed at times. His first angel date I was in bed flat on my back and could not move. I figured it to be stress. I finally went to the doctor a few months ago. I found I have 2 bulged discs. Plus where my spine meets my pelvic bone is wore out completely. I have been trying not to complain around my family because I know they are so sick of hearing it. I am actually tired of hearing it. The panic attacks come and go but like Denise says I have been trying to control them and I found that you can most of the time. It makes my chest hurt so bad. My biggest problem is my cholesterol. I can’t sleep so the doctor gave me sleeping pills but I don’t take them they make me have really bad dreams. I had gave up and was in that “I don’t care anymore mood” But I got to thinking Joseph would be so upset with me I do not want him to be disappointed in me. So I am trying to lose weight and get my cholesterol down. “We have to live for them”
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Denise Kneale
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9-Apr-2008
8:43 AM
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Awww bless you Dessa. I also have osteoarthritis in knees, back, shoulder and hands, I won't have surgery and keep it controlled with analgesics and NSAID's.
I had hypertension (High blood pressure) and high cholesterol before James passed over, and now I am on medication for both of them.
Why don't you go back to your Dr Dessa and tell him the effect of your sleeping pills, as normally with sleeping pills you don't dream?
Another thing I've thought of, is that when you are constantly in a state of stress, you immune system is also lowered, hence catching more colds, flu etc.
So the main thing in my opinion is get rid of the stress, in any way that suits you, even watching lots of comedy movies to make you laugh....yes it is ok to enjoy yourself, for your own well being.
Hope you get it sorted Dessa
Love and Blessings Denise xxx
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jeannie mazur
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11-Apr-2008
1:31 PM
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HAS ANYONE LOST THERE FRIENDS. I USED TO WORK 48 HOURS A WEEK, I BARTENDED..JUST WONDERING WHERE EVERYONE WENT AND WHY.. I GO TO COMPASSONATE FRIENDS BUT THEY SEEM TO BE DOING BETTER THAN ME..I KNOW I CANT COMPARE THEM TO ME.. BUT I REFUSE TO TAKE ANTI DEPRESIONATES. SPELLED WRONG LOL. IS IT THAT LIFE WILL NEVER ME THE SAME. JUST SO TIRED OF BEING ALONE. AND I TRY SO HARD.. BUT EVERY WHERE I GO I GO ALONE.THANKS FOR YOUR HELP JEANNIE MOM TO DUANE SUESS
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Denise Kneale
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15-Apr-2008
7:58 AM
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Dear Jeannie,
Thank you for all the candles you light for my James, they are much appreciated. I'm sorry that I don't get to light many, but you are in my thoughts.
I never took any antidepressants or had counselling either and compassionate friends that my husband and I went to, were worse than us and we ended up counselling them, so didn't go back after that!
Our lives will never be the same, we just learn to live differently....and remember, you are never alone.
I haven't lost any of my friends, just 1 of them tries to tell me what to do, ie get a hobby etc., but it's not her fault, she doesn't know how it feels.
Jeannie, get the book called: Love Never Dies by Sandy Goodman, it will help you.
Take good care of yourself and honour your feelings.
Love and Blessings Denise mum to James Kneale xxx
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