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RAY GREEN (Nick's Dad)

 I have lost many family members over the years, but I never dreamed my Son would ever be gone home before me. As a dad, a son is special, he is to carry on the family name and all the things that make us men that we teach them. Our daughters are always our pets, our little girls even if they are forty, but our son's are us made over in our minds, at least in mine it is. My son was born when I was 15, and we were very close, but we argued alot for some reason. Sometimes I think back and most of them were just stupid pride of both of us. I wondered after he passed on if he really loved me and if he knew how much I loved him. Well to my suprise, I found trails of little things, like his secret question for email was my middle name, and boy how I cried with joy and pain. I also started looking at things he had collected, and sure enough if I had one he had one, what a feeling that is, just to know, He did love his Daddy, and He knew I loved him. Nick was an easy going person, but if you upset him, you would take a beating, and he was trained very well on how to hurt a human. He always said, If I get mad and start on you, My dad is the only person who can stop me. I never thought much about that until this. If Nick played football, I was a coach, if he wrestled I was a coach, In short, if he participated in anything I was there on the sidelines supporting him and protecting him. He was the most loveable young man and all he ever ask of anyone was respect and always tell him the truth, and he would stand beside you through anything, from the CEO of the company where he worked to the pizza delivery person, just because he believed in good friends and being a good friend and person to all. Some stories I could tell would be unbelievable to most people about what he did for people he did not even know. I ask myself , did I help make him this way, I sure hope so, and I think I did, and it helps me get through each day. The last couple of weeks he was here was great between us, we did so much together and called each other at 3am or 3pm, it did not matter what time, we needed each other. I have a great wife and daughter, both of them are beautiful and love me so much and I don't even feel like I deserve it and they take care of me like you would not believe, but there is a great big black hole in my heart as my son,brother and best friend is gone away. We loved to go fishing and stay for hours and we did that right before this happened, the boat was still hooked up to the truck, we spent the whole night on the lake together, starting when the sun was setting and we left when it came up, we only caught one fish, but we had alot of fun that night. There are so many things that change for a dad when you loose a son, expecially if he is the only son, not to say I do not love my daughter more that life itself, but dad's I think spend there whole life trying to get things too leave your son, like a car,gun or something that both like, and we try to make sure he will have it made when we pass on in short. So the loss of a son for a dad changes everything we do and the way we used to do it. Something I used to say is " Tommorow , Today Will Be A Memory, So Make It A Good One "

Wrote By a Loving Father Longing For His Son Too Say " Hey Dad, Wanna Go Do Something "

Love 4Ever
Ray Green

Gary Boehling ( Adam's Dad)

For the love of my whole family has always been strong. I've lost many, and hurt remains. The loss of my 18 yr old Son (Adam) completely changed my world. I realize "we store our treasures in heaven" so we have them when we are called home, but I miss so much the; 'Hey pops, I love ya' the; 'Hey pops, lets go into town'  that smile, that hug! I thank the Lord for the opportunity I had to take a 2300 mile motorcyle ride with just " Him & I" before he died. Those memories will forever stay etched in this heart. God, Miss you boy! your pops